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This is a post I did on MySpace on Dec. 26th, 2005 that I really liked and wanted to share with my blog readers.

What is the meaning of Christmas?

Ok, ok, hold it. I already know what you’re thinking. What is she doing? Is she gonna start speaking philosophically? Is she been into the eggnog?

No and no. I am not gonna use my blog to impart to you the definition of Christmas, neither am I gonna preach to you like a saint, but I merely wanted you to think about this question yourself and then read what I am about to say.

As I was going by the guest bedroom to turn off the tv that my neice had fallen asleep watching, my hand was stopped as I reached for the power button. A little boy was on the TV, about 3 or 4, and as I love children, I was interested to see what was going on. This little boy was picking up toys and putting them in this medium sized box and this man proceeded to ask him, “What are you doing?”

The little boy said, “I am giving all my toys to kids who won’t get toys for Christmas.” At this utterance, I froze, my heart stopped for a beat and I almost felt a tear clutch my heart and climb up through me and trickle from my eye. I kept watching, transfixed, and the TV seemed dreamlike, ethereal, like something almost unreal. The man continued to ask the boy ,” Why are you giving all your toys away?” The boy, not missing a beat, continuing to put his toys in one by one, for a minute glanced up and I was looking right into his eyes. In fact, it felt as if I was not only looking into them, but I was right there next to him. The little boy answered, “Because they don’t have toys. It’s the right thing to do for Christmas. ” He then went back to work filling the box with all his toys and the picture faded out. I came out of my trance and turned the power off.

I fought back burning coals of tears and I thought about what I had just seen. I tell myself all the time, I don’t care about money, I don’t care about gifts, but would I be willing to give up even half of my possessions when this little boy was giving all his toys? which to a kid, is like giving away a car? I feel selfish and undeserving of all that I have, and I know soon I will probably get over this and go back to my old life, let’s face it, we all do, but for a moment, when I watched that little boy give up his toys….I smile now with tears and say………..I now know the true meaning of Christmas.

{March 2, 2011}   Change your perception

To begin with, our perception of the world is deformed, incomplete. Then our memory is selective. Finally, writing transforms.”-Claude Simon

How do you perceive things? Are you the type of person who sees a picture and automatically seeks out the negative connotations in it or are you a person who searches for the beauty in the mediocre? When you remember an event in your life, do you only remember the bad things or do you grasp tightly to the positive and beneficial?

I always like to believe that I’m the type who sees a picture, sees a situation and takes the time to make my mind up about it before judging it one way or the other. The type who refuses to always judge a book by its cover. The one, who when faced with an ugly exterior, chooses to scratch at more than just its surface until I have found the beauty underneath. But there’s times in life when I am reminded that I am also only human. I, too, fall into the media and the public’s perception of what is beautiful, what is normal and what is not.

It’s hard to realize this. I don’t want to admit I’m at fault for judging something without really delving in deep and getting to know about it first. I am at fault, though. And I am not the only one. Last night, I was watching TV with my husband. We were watching Parenthood, a show that we both love. There’s a boy on there that plays a kid with Asperger’s (a high functioning form of autism). Although I have watched this show from the beginning when the parents first find out their son has this syndrome, I am still fascinated by all the new information I learn about it through each new episode. I realized something very new indeed in this last one, though. The father takes the boy to this theme park for the day instead of school and he promises him he can ride this one ride as many times as he wants. Well, when they first get on this ride, something becomes wrong. The ride is in need of repairs so they have to get off and it’s closed for the day. If you know anything about Asperger’s, you know that they do not do good with change like this. If you promise them something and then you break it, whether in your control or against it, they freak out. So the boy freaks out bad. In the middle of an amusement park. Cue the stares from strangers and the scowls on their faces.

It was then I turned to my husband and said, “You know, if I was in that park and I didn’t know that kid had Asperger’s, I, just like many of those people, would be saying,”Shame on that parent for not disciplining that kid. That kid is obviously spoiled and lacks discipline.”

I realized at that moment that every time I have seen a kid misbehaving, this is exactly what I have thought. I had always heard my mom voice this opinion out loud to me when another kid misbehaved and I was a kid myself. So I grew up believing that when you see a kid misbehave that this is a product of bad parenting and lack of discipline. I’m not going to say that every time in the past that I HAVE seen this was wrong. Obviously not every child that misbehaves has Asperger’s or adhd, bi-polar, etc. BUT it made me think back and see that I was wrong to assume that lack of discipline is always the case. So next time, maybe I will stop for a second and think, “You know, there could be another reason and it’s not MY child, so who am I to assess blame on either the child or the parent if I don’t know any more than what I am seeing now.” I mean, you’re only seeing a small piece of a puzzle.

I don’t expect that I will never make this mistake again but this made me really stop and think. How many times in my life do I see something and automatically jump to a conclusion, in one way or the other, without first seeing the bigger picture? How many times do YOU do this?

I think the biggest lesson I have learned from this is to stop and work on changing my perception. When I am in a situation and I make a snap judgment, I want to pull myself back and think on it for a bit. What other possibilities are there that I could be missing here? Am I really viewing this in the best possible way?

{February 24, 2011}   Kid’s Advice to kids

This was taken out of a blog I did on Myspace in January of 2006 and I believe the original place I got this was from an e-mail….I’m sick so I’m just copy/pasting my post tonight.

“Never trust a dog to watch your food.”
Patrick, age 10

“When your dad is mad and asks you, ‘Do I look stupid?’ don’t answer.”
Hannah, age 9

“Never tell your mom her diet’s not working.”
Michael, age 14

“Stay away from prunes.”
Randy, age 9

“Don’t pull Dad’s finger when he tells you to.”
Emily, age 10

“When your mom is mad at your dad, don’t let her brush your hair.”
Taylia, age 11

“Never let your three-year old brother in the same room as your school assignment.”
Traci, age 14

“A puppy always has bad breath — even after eating a Tic-Tac.”
Andrew, age 9

“Never hold a Dustbuster and a cat at the same time.”
Kyoyo, age 9

“You can’t hide a piece of broccoli in a glass of milk.”
Armir, age 9

“Don’t wear polka-dot underwear under white shorts.”
Kellie, age 11

“If you want a kitten, start out by asking for a horse.”
Naomi, age 15

“Felt-tip markers are not good to use as lipstick.”
Lauren, age 9

“Don’t pick on your sister when she’s holding a baseball bat.”
Joel, age 10

“When you get a bad grade in school, show it to your mom when she’s on the phone.”
Alyesha, age 13

“Never try to baptize a cat.”
Eileen, age 8

et cetera
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