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{March 11, 2011}   It’s time for some rants!

A lot of these things were on my mind when I did my “Everything but the kitchen sink” post BUT they are all rants basically and I didn’t feel like they quite fit with the tone of that post. So here are some rants that have been bugging me lately.

First of all, today I changed a toilet seat for the first time ever. Who knew it could be so complicated? It seemed simple enough but who knew loosening the screws and then re-tightening screws could be so hard? Darn myself for being a girly girl! Shouldn’t I know how to do this sort of thing?

Also speaking of toilets, you always hear women griping that their husband leaves the toilet seat up. Well, my husband is actually good about putting it down. The problem is he not only puts the lid back down but the very top cover too! Maybe this is his comedic way of saying “Ha ha, now you have to lift the seat as well!” but I find it rather annoying. I mean, yes, it’s better than the alternative and getting stuck IN the toilet but I don’t see how this is a good plan for either of us. How is it easier for him? Just means he will have to lift the seat no matter what, right?!

On to my next rant…We live in an apartment. For the most part, I am happy with it and the landlady is wonderful and nice, the maintenance man is cool and it’s a great apartment overall. Their scheduling leaves something to be desired though. They’ll leave a note saying they’re going to have the water off for a few hours on this day or whatever else they are going to do. That’s nice of them to give us warning because our first apartment didn’t, BUT they seem to schedule in riddles. Example: We got a note earlier this week saying “The water will be turned off between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. on Friday, March 10th.” Ok….I didn’t even look twice. Thursday morning comes….the water is off between those hours. I look at the note again. March 10th IS Thursday but they called Friday March 10th. Part of me thinks they do this sort of thing to cover their butts. This way if you gripe, they can say but we said March 10th…..Why should I be surprised? It’s not a first. They do this constantly. It has to be on purpose, right? Why must they play games with me????

Oh….skipping back to bathroom talk for a second. Have you ever seriously considered carrying toilet paper in your purse? I have. Of course, THEN you would never need it, right? But I guess it’s better safe then sorry.

Rant #5: A friend of my husband’s loves to put me down as a reference whenever he or she decides to take out a loan. Problem? This person never pays the loan back so guess who gets inundated with phone calls? ME.  I blocked my number from telemarketers and I STILL get junk calls because of THIS. UGH!

Rant #6: Whatever happened to platform sandals? Seriously? I could care less if they are not in style. I have always and still loved a platform on sandals. It doesn’t have to be a very big one, but the only sandals I can find nowadays are pretty much completely flat (which hurt my flat feet), have a regular spike heel(which I can no longer wear) or are wedges. Don’t get me wrong, wedges look cute. The problem is, wedges and me don’t get along. It feels as if I am attempting a tight rope walk. Lean your foot too much to the left or the right and a twisted ankle is guaranteed. At least for me. I have a rod in my right ankle and I am clumsy enough. A platform is perfect for me! It covers the same wideness of the bottom of the shoe and doesn’t bother my flat feet. So who do I have to talk to to get them to make them again? : (

And my final rant of the day: One of my wonderfully sweet and beautiful friends on Facebook was asking today about, “Why do you have to be skinny to get married?” cause apparently some people have mentioned losing weight for her wedding. This stereotype angers me more than anything. I remember back before my wedding and seeing all the articles about getting in shape for your wedding, fitting into your dress, and blah blah blah. I think if you want to lose weight for yourself, to be healthy or whatever, then that is fine but too much emphasis is put on being skinny for your day. This is just outrageous to me. I, myself, refused to put that pressure on myself. I met my husband as a big beautiful woman and he loved that about me. He loves my curves and he loves me as a person overall. There are far more important things to worry about on your wedding day. If people are telling you to lose weight, tell them to get lost, I say!  I do not regret not losing weight for my wedding. I still felt beautiful on my day and in my dress and most of that was because I surrounded myself with friends and family who loved ME. Truly loved ME and not physical perfection. I felt beautiful and by feeling that, I think everyone else truly saw beauty.

I know that I, myself, do have an issue with my weight but my weight doesn’t define who I am inside. The people who truly care about me are going to love me no matter what. I would love to eventually lose weight for my health and for myself but I don’t want it to ever be to fit a mold of who the world thinks I should be.


{February 17, 2011}   Guilt is a 5 letter word

Today’s entry in “The Woman’s Book of Confidence” was all about erasing guilt from your life. The most interesting thing I learned from the entry is that “Guilt” is a strictly English word. I even looked it up online to prove it to myself!

guilt – word origin and history.

I found it rather humorous when I read The Daily Post’s topic of the day, though. Today it suggested you describe the perfect crime. I don’t think I want to follow the directive for today because I just don’t really think about committing crime. I do think it’s funny how my confidence boost was about erasing guilt and then the Daily Post wants me to talk about committing a crime. Rather ironic, wouldn’t you say?

If someone commits a big crime, then I think they SHOULD feel guilt for it. It’s more about not feeling guilty over every little thing. I think the feeling of guilt is rather overused nowadays. If you forgot to clean the kitchen today, you feel guilty. If you made a tiny mistake, you feel guilty. I think when it comes to something so minor, it’s good to stop yourself from feeling guilty and just move on.

So far, I am 2 days into this book and I really feel like I am learning so much. I really think this book is going to be a great confidence builder for me. I don’t want THIS to take over my posts everyday though cause I didn’t do a blog JUST to have it be over confidence or to strictly be inspirational. I would love to know I am inspiring anyone but I don’t want my blog to be based on any one thing. This blog is about me and what makes me ME. It’s about what I’m going through in my life. It’s about emotions and feeling inside me that I want to share with others. It’s about things I feel compelled to say and not just keep inside me. It’s about the Real Sharon and the real Sharon is not just one thing all the time. No one is.

So…I would love to hear feedback from whoever reads my blog. Do you like that I don’t have a themed blog or would you like it if I stuck to a theme? And what do you think about hearing about my daily confidence boosts? All comments are greatly appreciated and welcome!

{February 16, 2011}   Finding Roots through the Dew

I have this little book called “The Woman’s Book of Confidence” that is all about teaching you to accept yourself and be true to you. I had never read any of it before today. In fact, I had it set aside under the little table by my bed. I had fallen asleep last night with another book beside me and today when I went to set it down on the table, I accidently knocked over a can of Mountain Dew that I had left on top of my table. So…I had to grab a towel real quick and move everything from on top and under the table to clean it up.

That’s when I saw the little book and decided to read the first part. It’s divided up into many little sections so it can be read kind of like a daily thing, if you want. The first little story was about Sharing Roots. It talked about Redwood trees and how they last so long because they spread their roots out all around them.

Redwood tree roots are very shallow, often only five or six feet deep. But they make up for it in width, sometimes extending up to 100 feet from the trunk. They thrive in thick groves, where the roots can intertwine and even fuse together. This gives them tremendous strength against the forces of nature. This way they can withstand high winds and raging

The lesson you can learn from this story is that if we, like the Redwood trees, share our roots with those around us, we can withstand the trials that come into our lives. You need to have confidence to be willing to share your roots with others and not be afraid to ask for the support that you need.

I believe this is a very important lesson for me. One that I never knew I needed. I always thought I DID ask for support when I needed it. Obviously, I haven’t always, though. As one of my most recent posts showed me, the one about my brother drinking and the way he acted. I chose to keep that secret from a lot of people that could have been there for me during that time. I made up a million excuses as to why I couldn’t tell anyone when the real truth was simply I felt like to tell people would be asking for pity. Why should I tell ALL my friends my sob stories? They have enough of their own, right? They don’t want to hear all my pitiful ones. What if they think I am pathetic and just want attention or something?

But what I have learned from that short story on Redwoods is that whenever you have ANYTHING in your life that is hurting you and bringing you down, it’s important to share it with someone. You can not survive if you have no roots planted in the ground. If all your grief and heartache starts inside you and also ends there, then you’re like a tree with no roots in the ground. Eventually, enough wind and rain is going to come your way, that you can no longer remain standing strong. It WILL knock you down.

Today I realized that part of having confidence in yourself is asking for support when you need it. AND giving support when others ask for it.  The confidence is in trusting yourself.

From now on, I choose to ask for support from those around me when I need it. I also choose to give support however I am able to, to those around me who need it. If this is something that you, yourself, struggle with, I challenge you to do the same.

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