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{August 27, 2011}   Repost of a Post from the Past

*This is a repost of a post I did March 17th,2010 that didn’t get as many views. If you didn’t read it, enjoy reading it NOW and if you did, you might like to reread….*

Feeling Beautiful Can Be a High Price to Pay

We all as women have been there and we all can relate. Our media is overflowing with images of beautiful women with what seems to be perfect bodies, perfect faces, perfect smiles, perfect everything and we all wish, if even in secret, to be just as beautiful as them. But what happens when the price of gaining beauty ends up leaving you feeling uglier than you felt before? When is trying to achieve beauty too high a price and no longer worth it?

I watched a new show on VH1 last night called “The Price of Beauty”. It’s hosted by Jessica Simpson…not sure what you may personally feel about Jessica Simpson. I think most people would agree she is aesthetically beautiful(meaning on the outside, she has a typical American beauty look)., so above all, to see that someone like her has insecurities about her own beauty is shocking to me and probably most people. BUT under the facade of most beautiful women out there are insecurities and that’s just a fact.

I tuned in to watch it because the premise of the show appealed to me. She travels to different countries to see what makes people from different cultures feel beautiful and I find that an interesting concept. So I tuned in….In the first show, she goes to Thailand and she meets with a correspondent which happens to be the host of Thailand’s Next Top Model. Geez, that show is everywhere! Anyways, the real grabber in the episode, and that could be pun intended, because it really grabbed a hold of my heart, was when they were in this central market place looking at some make-up. In Thailand, they have a lot of whitening and bleaching agents used in their make-ups to make their skin look as light as possible. To them, being tan is low class because it means you work out in the sun, so to feel beautiful, they try to achieve as light of skin as possible. Well, the FDA we have here doesn’t regulate their products and keep them safe so there can be horrible consequences that result from this make-up. They all head to meet and talk with this one woman who knows all too well about this. On her arms and her face, you can see the white blotches that reminded me of something similar to losing skin pigment, where this make-up literally caused her skin to start peeling off layers. This young lady used to be a singer in a bar, now she is too embarrassed to get in front of people. She was also married but when her skin started peeling off, her husband left her.

This story just touched my heart and caused tears to come to my eyes. How horrible that this woman, in her search for ultimate beauty, now has lost so much and feels less beautiful than she was to begin with. And it also makes me feel so guilty when I start to doubt my own beauty. And it makes me angry that women are made to put so much emphasis on outer beauty in this world. I wish I had a magic wand so priorities could be focused inside on the things that really matter, like a person’s inner beauty, their character. Because I sometimes feel so much is put on the outer beauty nowadays, that the inner beauty is being put on the back burner. Children are being raised to believe that to make it in this world, all you really need is good looks and that saddens me because you can be the most beautiful woman on the outside, but if your inside doesn’t match what’s on the outside, than to me, you are NOT beautiful.

I hope with all that is in me to teach my future children that true beauty lies on the inside and when you are beautiful on the inside and feel beautiful on the inside, then that beauty will radiate outside and give you a glow that no beauty regimen or program can ever equal and when your life comes to its end, you will be known not only for that light you shown outwards to others but also for being an incredibly beautiful person on the inside that inspired others through your actions and your character.



{March 11, 2011}   It’s time for some rants!

A lot of these things were on my mind when I did my “Everything but the kitchen sink” post BUT they are all rants basically and I didn’t feel like they quite fit with the tone of that post. So here are some rants that have been bugging me lately.

First of all, today I changed a toilet seat for the first time ever. Who knew it could be so complicated? It seemed simple enough but who knew loosening the screws and then re-tightening screws could be so hard? Darn myself for being a girly girl! Shouldn’t I know how to do this sort of thing?

Also speaking of toilets, you always hear women griping that their husband leaves the toilet seat up. Well, my husband is actually good about putting it down. The problem is he not only puts the lid back down but the very top cover too! Maybe this is his comedic way of saying “Ha ha, now you have to lift the seat as well!” but I find it rather annoying. I mean, yes, it’s better than the alternative and getting stuck IN the toilet but I don’t see how this is a good plan for either of us. How is it easier for him? Just means he will have to lift the seat no matter what, right?!

On to my next rant…We live in an apartment. For the most part, I am happy with it and the landlady is wonderful and nice, the maintenance man is cool and it’s a great apartment overall. Their scheduling leaves something to be desired though. They’ll leave a note saying they’re going to have the water off for a few hours on this day or whatever else they are going to do. That’s nice of them to give us warning because our first apartment didn’t, BUT they seem to schedule in riddles. Example: We got a note earlier this week saying “The water will be turned off between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. on Friday, March 10th.” Ok….I didn’t even look twice. Thursday morning comes….the water is off between those hours. I look at the note again. March 10th IS Thursday but they called Friday March 10th. Part of me thinks they do this sort of thing to cover their butts. This way if you gripe, they can say but we said March 10th…..Why should I be surprised? It’s not a first. They do this constantly. It has to be on purpose, right? Why must they play games with me????

Oh….skipping back to bathroom talk for a second. Have you ever seriously considered carrying toilet paper in your purse? I have. Of course, THEN you would never need it, right? But I guess it’s better safe then sorry.

Rant #5: A friend of my husband’s loves to put me down as a reference whenever he or she decides to take out a loan. Problem? This person never pays the loan back so guess who gets inundated with phone calls? ME.  I blocked my number from telemarketers and I STILL get junk calls because of THIS. UGH!

Rant #6: Whatever happened to platform sandals? Seriously? I could care less if they are not in style. I have always and still loved a platform on sandals. It doesn’t have to be a very big one, but the only sandals I can find nowadays are pretty much completely flat (which hurt my flat feet), have a regular spike heel(which I can no longer wear) or are wedges. Don’t get me wrong, wedges look cute. The problem is, wedges and me don’t get along. It feels as if I am attempting a tight rope walk. Lean your foot too much to the left or the right and a twisted ankle is guaranteed. At least for me. I have a rod in my right ankle and I am clumsy enough. A platform is perfect for me! It covers the same wideness of the bottom of the shoe and doesn’t bother my flat feet. So who do I have to talk to to get them to make them again? : (

And my final rant of the day: One of my wonderfully sweet and beautiful friends on Facebook was asking today about, “Why do you have to be skinny to get married?” cause apparently some people have mentioned losing weight for her wedding. This stereotype angers me more than anything. I remember back before my wedding and seeing all the articles about getting in shape for your wedding, fitting into your dress, and blah blah blah. I think if you want to lose weight for yourself, to be healthy or whatever, then that is fine but too much emphasis is put on being skinny for your day. This is just outrageous to me. I, myself, refused to put that pressure on myself. I met my husband as a big beautiful woman and he loved that about me. He loves my curves and he loves me as a person overall. There are far more important things to worry about on your wedding day. If people are telling you to lose weight, tell them to get lost, I say!  I do not regret not losing weight for my wedding. I still felt beautiful on my day and in my dress and most of that was because I surrounded myself with friends and family who loved ME. Truly loved ME and not physical perfection. I felt beautiful and by feeling that, I think everyone else truly saw beauty.

I know that I, myself, do have an issue with my weight but my weight doesn’t define who I am inside. The people who truly care about me are going to love me no matter what. I would love to eventually lose weight for my health and for myself but I don’t want it to ever be to fit a mold of who the world thinks I should be.



{February 11, 2011}   Beauty or brains?

Which would YOU choose?

It’s the old debate: Beauty or brains? We have all thought about it at sometime in our lives. Would you rather be super-intelligent or super good looking?

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I feel like my answer to this is your basic run of the mill Miss America answer. I automatically would pick super intelligent because I feel like looks will only get you so far and looks also fade whereas intelligence, you can always bank on that if you got it. I believe a lot of people would secretly love to have the super good looks, though. I would be lying if I said I have never in my life wished I was super model hot. I mean, come on, look at the celebrities on TV. The popular girls that seem to get all the guys. When they say sex sells, they are NOT lying. We all know it’s true. Sad, yes, but unfortunately, it is true.

But maybe intelligence is sexy in its own right, too. After all, who wants a bunch of dumb hotties walking around this planet that don’t have the foggiest idea how to do anything past doing their hair or make-up. Maybe a hot girl looks good on a guy’s arm but at the end of the day, there’s no substance. There’s no meaningful conversation. You’re not learning anything from each other, not allowing each other to grow.

So, yea…..I would pick super intelligent over good looks any day. Besides…if you are smart enough, you could figure out how to make yourself look better through scientific means, right? BUT if you’re just good looking and don’t have the brain capacity, you’re not going to be able to get anywhere near super intelligence.

Ok…this is just a side note here. Tomorrow me and my hubby are going out of town for the day for some shopping, browsing, and spending time together. Sort of an early V Day date kind of thing. I am so excited! I’m going to bring my camera along so I can take some pics and maybe get some inspiration for my photo challenge blog this coming week. You will have to wait to see what the theme was. I am really thrilled to see what direction my photo post takes me!



We all as women have been there and we all can relate. Our media is overflowing with images of beautiful women with what seems to be perfect bodies, perfect faces, perfect smiles, perfect everything and we all wish, if even in secret, to be just as beautiful as them. But what happens when the price of gaining beauty ends up leaving you feeling uglier than you felt before? When is trying to achieve beauty too high a price and no longer worth it?

I watched a new show on VH1 last night called “The Price of Beauty”. It’s hosted by Jessica Simpson…not sure what you may personally feel about Jessica Simpson. I think most people would agree she is aesthetically beautiful(meaning on the outside, she has a typical American beauty look)., so above all, to see that someone like her has insecurities about her own beauty is shocking to me and probably most people. BUT under the facade of most beautiful women out there are insecurities and that’s just a fact.

I tuned in to watch it because the premise of the show appealed to me. She travels to different countries to see what makes people from different cultures feel beautiful and I find that an interesting concept. So I tuned in….In the first show, she goes to Thailand and she meets with a correspondent which happens to be the host of Thailand’s Next Top Model. Geez, that show is everywhere! Anyways, the real grabber in the episode, and that could be pun intended, because it really grabbed a hold of my heart, was when they were in this central market place looking at some make-up. In Thailand, they have a lot of whitening and bleaching agents used in their make-ups to make their skin look as light as possible. To them, being tan is low class because it means you work out in the sun, so to feel beautiful, they try to achieve as light of skin as possible. Well, the FDA we have here doesn’t regulate their products and keep them safe so there can be horrible consequences that result from this make-up. They all head to meet and talk with this one woman who knows all too well about this. On her arms and her face, you can see the white blotches that reminded me of something similar to losing skin pigment, where this make-up literally caused her skin to start peeling off layers. This young lady used to be a singer in a bar, now she is too embarrassed to get in front of people. She was also married but when her skin started peeling off, her husband left her.

This story just touched my heart and caused tears to come to my eyes. How horrible that this woman, in her search for ultimate beauty, now has lost so much and feels less beautiful than she was to begin with. And it also makes me feel so guilty when I start to doubt my own beauty. And it makes me angry that women are made to put so much emphasis on outer beauty in this world. I wish I had a magic wand so priorities could be focused inside on the things that really matter, like a person’s inner beauty, their character. Because I sometimes feel so much is put on the outer beauty nowadays, that the inner beauty is being put on the back burner. Children are being raised to believe that to make it in this world, all you really need is good looks and that saddens me because you can be the most beautiful woman on the outside, but if your inside doesn’t match what’s on the outside, than to me, you are NOT beautiful.

I hope with all that is in me to teach my future children that true beauty lies on the inside and when you are beautiful on the inside and feel beautiful on the inside, then that beauty will radiate outside and give you a glow that no beauty regimen or program can ever equal and when your life comes to its end, you will be known not only for that light you shown outwards to others but also for being an incredibly beautiful person on the inside that inspired others through your actions and your character.



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