It’s hard to always stay strong
“Trying to make ends meet, you’re a slave to money, then you die”
These are lyrics to “Bittersweet Symphony” by The Verve…a song that was popular well over a decade ago. And it pops up in my head right now and fits so well…..
Tomorrow, I will see family members that I have not seen in a while. I will finally meet my great niece for the first time. Originally, I was not going to meet her until Christmas, but now I am getting to see her sooner. At the same time, it’s hard to be too excited about it because the only reason I am getting to see them is cause of death. It’s such a bittersweet feeling I am in right now. I find myself angry at myself for smiling or laughing because it just doesn’t seem right. BUT….at the same time, my Nanny wouldn’t want us to be sad. She even had a poem picked out about not crying for her after she died. Well…it’s kind of hard not to. We are human and we are here while she is gone. I believe I will see her again one day, but for now, we grieve lost loved ones because we are going to miss them until the time we are re-united. I am sure my Nanny missed her husband who died almost 2 decades ago. I am also sure she is with him now and they had a wondrous meeting in Heaven.
But, I’m human and I will grieve for what I have lost. My future children will never know their great grandma except in stories. Is it selfish to cry over that thought? I know I should be grateful of the time I had her in my life, but now, I only look back and wish I had spent more than I did. Is it natural to regret? I am relatively immature with death. I have had people I know die, but honestly, my Nanny is the first family member that has died that has really impacted me. I lost my other 3 grandparents before I hit my teens, and the memories of them are very few and far between. My Nanny has been the only grandparent I have had for as far back as I can remember. People even said we looked alike.
My Mom told me the preacher who will be preaching at the funeral wanted each one of us to think of something we remember doing with my Nanny, so he could use it at the ceremony. How can I possibly remember ONE thing to encompass her whole life? I don’t see how any one could do justice at honoring her the way I think she should be. So now I am here racking my brains…looking ahead to this Labor Day weekend, which is a holiday for so many and a time to relax. I will be with family, but it will be under the worst of circumstances. If I had to choose whether to see family members for a couple of days this weekend or have my Nanny back, I would just rather have her back. It’s so hard to feel excited over seeing family but then feel guilty over the reasons WHY you are getting to see them. My Nanny wanted to meet her new great-great-granddaughter SO bad. She was SO excited for Christmas when she would get to see her. Now, she will only be looking down from Heaven at her. At the same time, neither her or any of us ever got to meet the twins. Now she is getting to meet them before us. This makes me feel better knowing she is with two of her great-great-grandsons in Heaven, playing with them, and giving them kisses for all of us. They are now extra protected with her there. Maybe God knew the twins needed a grandma’s love. At least, that’s what I would like to think.
My weekend posts may be pretty short and not too interesting. I’m going to have a lot of other things on my mind and it’s going to be hard to even find time to post, but I will. I will because I think my Nanny would want that.
Normally, writing helps. I actually had a long post in my head to write about what I’m feeling, but at the moment, I do not feel like writing it. The last thing I wanted to do was work today… I enjoy my job, but my mind was everyone else BUT on my work. My heart is breaking right now for my Mom. If you did not read my post last night, you probably are confused right now. My Nanny (my Mom’s Mom) passed away yesterday afternoon. It was pretty unexpected. I mean, I think we all knew she wouldn’t live for many more years but no one expected her to leave yesterday. 😦
I have cried tears over it, and I am sure I will cry much, much more, but I think right now I just feel sadness for my Mom. I can’t even imagine what she is feeling right now, because if I ever lost her, I think I would go insane. Obviously, it’s a fact of life, but she was the only daughter of my Nanny. She had a brother…but she was the only daughter and he was the only son. My Mom was extremely close to her Mom as I am to mine. I wish I could be there for her more right now….I wish I could do more….I just feel lost and down….and in no mood to write about this right now. 😦
To play along, just answer the following three (3) questions… • What are you currently reading? • What did you recently finish reading? • What do you think you’ll read next?
Last Wednesday, there was a birthday…this Wednesday, there was a death. R.I.P. to my Nanny. I love you so much, and I already miss you!
What are you currently reading? “Confessions of a sociopath: A life hidden in plain sight” by M.E. Thomas
What did you recently finish reading? “First Among Sequels”(Book 5 of the Thursday Next Series)
“Self inflicted wounds: Heartwarming tales of Epic Humiliation” by Aisha Tyler
What do you think you’ll read next? “All our Thursdays are missing” (Book 6 of the Thursday Next Series)
1. Read the daily writing prompt.
2. Push “Play” on the timer on the right side of the screen.
3. Spend 60 seconds or less writing a response to the daily prompt.
Today’s Writing Prompt: Good and Bad
Posted: 27 Aug 2013 03:00 AM PDT
I sure hope so! I have absolutely no idea what my weight is today. This morning, when I stepped on the scale, it did not move from zero. Even if it was humanly possible to weigh exactly 0, I would never want to. My guess is that my scale needs a change of batteries, but I did not have any around the house. I DID pick up some later, but I don’t like weighing myself in the middle of the day. So….my weight post has no NEW news today. Until next week, who knows if that’s good or bad? 🙂
Caught up in a good book. 🙂
I STILL haven’t figured out what my weekly Friday theme is going to be….and I haven’t had any advice either. 😦
Regardless, it has been an extremely LONG week, so I and my husband are going to watch some movies. Speaking of movies…I seriously need to add movies to my “50 movie list”, which I am pretty sure I have already passed. I made a 10 minute run to the library today to grab the 1 book that is next in the series I am reading and ended up leaving with 5 books, 2 of them 7 day books…just in 10 minutes! -.- Even in a hurry, I cannot leave the library with just 1 book! ~sighs~
I promise I have an actual POST in my head to do. I just don’t feel like posting it tonight, and I have been too busy to post it the last few days. 😦 Tomorrow, I have a serious but personal post that has been stewing in my head for awhile I am planning to post. Unless life gets in the way, I will…..
But for now, I am off to spend time with the grumpy ogre….I mean, my husband. 🙂 I love you, Chad! 😉
1. Read the daily writing prompt.
2. Push “Play” on the timer on the right side of the screen.
3. Spend 60 seconds or less writing a response to the daily prompt.
Posted: 22 Aug 2013 03:30 AM PDT