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{August 4, 2011}   The “Unborn” on Facebook

I have several friends on Facebook who are expecting a baby, some are going to be new mommies and some already have been there, done that. I have learned so much about their pregnancies through this lovely thing we call Social Networking. We have the mommies doing a photo time line of their growing bellies, posting the sonogram pictures, and of course, keeping us all informed of the baby that is growing inside them. This isn’t a bad thing, really. For close friends and family that live far away, it gives them the benefit of sharing in this special moment. I do agree that when it comes down to the actual labor, sometimes the minute by minute descriptions on Facebook can be way too much information, but hey, that will probably be me someday.

Something new has arrived on Facebook recently. Maybe they came up with it to try to gain favor since Google + has entered the game or maybe they just thought it was a clever tactic.

Now, expectant mothers have the ability to add their unborn child as a family member with a Due date instead of a birth date and the picture? The sonogram!

I suppose it’s kind of a cute gesture but what happens if something, Heaven forbid, goes wrong with the pregnancy? Can you picture coming home from a miscarriage or still birth and seeing your “family member” listed and then having to remove them or declare them dead? Then seeing on your wall the words “You removed —— as your expectant child.” How haunting……

I’m not a mother yet so I can’t even imagine the intense pain that comes with losing a child and I know losing one has got to be hard enough on its own already without having to remove them from your Facebook, but I just don’t know. There’s just this underlying creepiness factor.

Apparently, Facebook said the reasoning behind this was because moms were making actual profiles for their unborn children where they had to obviously lie about the age and make them at least 13. This was so they could then add them as a son or daughter on Facebook before they were actually born. So now instead of making a “fake” profile, you can add them as an actual unborn child instead of a 13 yr. old child who is really still inside the womb. When I consider THIS reasoning, their decision suddenly makes more sense.

So…I predict adding pets next to Family profiles. I mean, why not? I know people who have already made profiles for their pets and let’s face it, for some people, their pets ARE their children. So why not? Seems less creepy than adding an unborn child, doesn’t it?

preachersdaughter69 says:

Admittedly I’m a little jaded when it comes to expectant mothers and all, but I do find this really creepy. I just don’t understand why anyone would want to put their unborn child on FB. Why not just wait until the kid is born and then post pics?

Seems to make more sense to just wait!

I can understand both sides.

When I found out that I was pregnant, I swore I was going to wait to tell everyone “just in case.” That lasted all of 3 days.

I also remember having to tell all of my friends that I was getting a divorce and changing my MySpace page to say “single” (this was pre-FB for me). It was devastating. I can’t imagine going through the same thing to update the loss of a child and then everyone asking “why? what happened?”

Yea, I can sort of understand, too, but only because if I ever get pregnant, I would be so excited, it would be hard to not tell everyone. I fully expect to be one of the momma’s who does the time line and updates on FB but I don’t think I would add my child until he or she was born….It just feels like you’re jinxing it a bit, you know?

Exactly . . . which is why I doubt I would do that too. I’m sure if have another one that FB will be chock full of my ultrasound pics and updates on my cravings, but that’s it.

Your “jinxing” comment reminds me of people who tattoo other people’s names on themselves . . . Totally different topic, but I always felt like that was tempting fate way too much! (Coming from the daughter of a man who has his ex-wife’s name tattooed on his arm 27 years after their divorce :P)

Yea, I have heard that tattooing your spouse’s name is bad luck…..My husband wants a tattoo one day and he has mentioned getting our wedding anniversary date as one tattoo but he doesn’t want to get my name because of the “bad luck”.
I think getting a parent’s or a kid’s name is fine, though.

Creepy. TMI.

As for pets, now that would be a great idea!

Yea, I wonder why they haven’t come up with the Pets thing yet…maybe I should suggest it to them! 🙂

The Hook says:

FACEBOOK is out of control, right?

Seems like it! 😀

eof737 says:

WoW! You touched on a serious matter… like counting our chickens before they are hatched. I like the idea of adding family members and have added mine but, like you, I’d recommend that expectant moms wait till baby comes home with a name and then add them… Technology; a blessing and potentially a curse! 😦

Most of the times I consider it a blessing…except when it doesn’t want to work right! 🙂

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