Before I have the Pessimistic Police after me, please note that this post is actually very Optimistic. Things aren’t always what they seem….
It’s a popular saying that “The grass is always greener on the other side”. In other words, everything else always looks better to us than what we have ourselves. I think what we all need to realize is that the grass isn’t always greener…a lot of times it’s browner. The difference is that some people’s lawns are full of astro turf, or for those unfamiliar with such a thing, fake grass.
But even though we may know this to be a fact, it can still be hard for us not to secretly wish for the astro turf over our own grass. Do you suppose this is just human nature?
I, myself, try to not have regrets in life. If I did have one regret, it would be all the times in my past when I wasted my life wishing for greener pastures instead of cherishing what I already had in my front yard. It’s funny how we can have so MUCH to be thankful for right in front of our very eyes but not even realize how great we have it until it’s gone. There are times I look back on things from my past and remember the good times and wonder why didn’t I realize how great THIS moment was. I was focused on what could be, that’s why…..I was focused on things that could still be even better in life and wanting those things so much that I didn’t pay attention to how good it already was.
Now I look back and see how some things were greener then and I can’t help but wish for that back, but you can’t go back. You can’t bring back the green grass from your past…..now that I’m on the other side, that old side sure looks greener now.
The thing is it’s self defeating to spend all your time wishing for your past back or wishing your life was different from the way it is. You end up spending all your time wishing and no time LIVING. No time spent cherishing what you have now.
And what I have now is a lot to be thankful for in itself. Everything’s not perfect, but it never will be. The other side of the fence that looks greener is NOT perfect either. There’s no such thing and the sooner we realize that….the sooner I realize that, the better. Instead of wishing for things that I don’t have like I want them, I want to spend time thanking God for what I do have.
I have a wonderful husband who is kooky and crazy and can drive me insane at times, but he loves me just the way I am. I have my mom and dad still alive which is something not everyone can say. I have a nanny(grandma) on my mom’s side still here and I love her to death. I have so much family that I love so much and I am blessed with many nieces and nephews who are my world. I have some of the best friends ever who see this beauty and talent in me that I have yet to notice. I have a roof over my head and I never have to worry about doing without because no matter what, I have a family who will be there for me. I may not be the best Christian but I believe in God and I know he loves me and will always set his angels to watch over me. I may not weigh what I would like to weigh, but people love me regardless of that. I have had the blessing of living for 27 years when I have known many who have not been afforded the same.
I could really just go on and on but I am sure you would get tired of hearing it. For now, I choose to look at things as the other side is NOT greener. It’s browner. Others do NOT always have it better, it’s just what it may appear to be. Since I do not know everything that goes on in everyone else’s lives, I do NOT know if they do in fact have it truly better or not. Therefore, I choose to not waste time wanting another’s life. Instead, I want to put in the effort to really appreciate and love my own life and love what God has given me. If you agree with this perspective, then you are welcome to take up my new saying and use it to benefit your own life as well.
May YOUR own grass be greener than the other side!