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{April 30, 2011}   I was made in the 80’s!

I found this 80’s survey online and thought it looked fun, so I decided to put it on my blog. I love the 80’s!

80s Survey-Must have been born before 1987 !!!!


1. How old were you in 1980?
Not born YET!

2. How old were you in 1989?
I was 6…yea, I was a baby through the 80’s but I still loved them!

3. Were you a Toys R’ Us kid?
Yep, literally!

4. Did you watch Transformers?
Nope…I was a girly girl

5. Did you see E.T. on the big screen?
I think so…I don’t really remember BUT I know I watched E.T. quite a few times as a kid!

6. Did you own a Lite Brite?
Oh yes! I loved it, too!

7. Who is your Favorite Golden Girl?
Rose….she was so dumb that it was adorable! I still watch the re-runs!

8. When someone says ” Who you gonna call? ” You think?
Ghostbusters! My hubby’s fav. old school movie! Definitely going to have to see the 3rd one coming out!

9. What was your favorite toy(S)?
Barbie dolls, Rainbow Brite, Strawberry Shortcake, My little pony…all the girlie ones!

10. Did you have a Pogo Ball?
What’s a pogo ball?…I just know pogo sticks…and no, didn’t have one

11. Did you listen to New Kids on the Block?
Not in the 80’s and not much in the 90’s either….I just barely knew OF them, honestly

12. What New Kid did you have a crush on?
none of them

13. Did you play M.A.S.H?
Yea, I played it in elementary and on up

14. Did you watch The Care Bears?
Oh yes! How could I have forgotten them?! Loved them!

15. Did you have Jelly bracelets?

16. Did you have a charm necklace and/or bracelet?

17. Did you own a glo-worm?
Yes, I did! 🙂

18. Did you ever own a slap bracelet?
Yep and I think I still have one somewhere LOL

19. The Breakfast Club or Sixteen Candles?
Sixteen Candles

20. Did you have a crazy hair style?
No….I had long curly hair that my mom put little bows and barettes in…not really any different than nowadays

21. What was your first bike?
I don’t remember exactly what it looked like but I know it had training wheels and I rode it with the training wheels on long after I should have…LOL…I tried to ride it without and I could never keep my balance…I still can’t ride a bike!

22. Name one thing you still own from your childhood?
I have stuffed animals and dolls and things at my parents

23. Did you have a Cabbage Patch Kid?
I had a couple

24. Did you dress like Madonna?
No, but I loved her music!

25. Rainbow Brite or Strawberry Shortcake?
Rainbow Brite…I loved her hair and costume better!

26. Did you watch Miami Vice?

27. Did you own a pair of Jelly Shoes?
Yep, loved them!

28. Did you own a Trapper Keeper?
Yes (I think I still have one or two!)

29. Atari or Nintendo?
I have played both of them in the past…I prefer Nintendo

30. Did you play Pac-Man?
Of course!

31. Which was better: Jem and The Holograms or Barbie and The Rockers!?

32. He-Man or She-Ra?
She-Ra….girl power!

33. What movie scared you the most?
Nightmare on Elm Street….I would have nightmares of Freddy Krueger with that burned face and long nails!

34. Did you try to dance like Michael Jackson?
Yep! My brother had a tape of his with Thriller on it and I would listen to it over and over and dance…

35. What Is the first thing that comes to mind when you hear “FLUX”?
Marty and Back to the Future

36. What other colors did Pepsi come in? Which is best?
The can or the Pepsi? Cause I know they had a clear Pepsi that was see through….not sure about the cans

37. Roger Rabbit Or Howard The Duck?
Awww…I love both!

38. Did you ever beg your parents to have your school picture taken with the ‘LASER’ background? No…don’t recall that!

39. Do you know what the Ninja Rap is?

40. Do you know why people cringe when they hear the word BUCKNER?
No, I don’t

41. Can you name the family members from National Lampoon’s Vacation movies?
Clark, Ellen, Audrey, Rusty, Aunt Edna (who died). Cousin Eddie

42. Wally World or Europe?
Europe…Wally World might be closed!

43. What was your favorite movie from the 80s?

44. Who never puts Baby in the corner?
Nobody puts Baby in the corner!

I also found an 80’s lyrics quiz that I took and I scored 78.15…not too shabby considering I only lived about 7 years in the 80’s! If you’re interested in taking the same quiz and finding out YOUR score, I’m posting my badge I got from doing it on the right side of my blog! Just click it and go to the quiz! Let me know how you do!

Last week, I saw ALL this advertising about the Royal Wedding and I told myself, “I’m so tired of hearing about THIS, I can’t wait for it to be over and I am NOT interested in watching the wedding.” It seemed a lot of people were very interested and NOT just the British, which I could understand why THEY would be. While I was setting up my DVR to record stuff at the beginning of this week, I found myself scheduling the “Highlights from the Wedding”, which would record AFTER it. I told myself that was just to see what the big deal was and I could just fast forward past it or delete if it was too incredibly boring. BUT I was not going to record the wedding and I was not going to get up early to watch it or stay up for it. There was no way!

As the week went on, my will started to crumble a bit and I wondered how I could even be entertaining one thought of watching it. Why would I be interested in such rubbish, really? I even considered doing a blog talking about how tired I was of hearing about the wedding and how I couldn’t wait for it all to be over. But then I started seeing more glimpses here and there of things and I started to get pulled in. I tried hard to not be interested, I really did! I told myself I was obviously being hypnotized by something and I needed to resist the allure. Then my husband’s mom started talking about staying up to watch Princess Diana’s wedding and how it was such a historical and beautiful event. Well…I was 3 years away from being thought of by my parents when Princess Diana had HER wedding so suffice it to say, I didn’t have the issue of whether to watch or not to watch their wedding.

But it started to wear on me….All the talk of it being so historical and the idea of a royal not marrying  commoner in over 350 years….Would I possibly one day regret it IF I didn’t watch? Could it possibly be this huge event that was so amazing that I would be sad I missed it? I gave in and hit the scheduler on my DVR….I would record the pre-wedding and wedding BUT I would not watch it live. I would just watch it later and skip through the boring parts. At least that’s what I told myself. But sometimes you shock yourself….and now I feel almost ashamed that I was pulled in.

I started watching the pre-show 30 minutes into the recording… was recording on my DVR and I just couldn’t resist the wait. I watched as guest after guest arrived at the royal event and I was in awe of the fashion. Apparently British women LOVE hats! Who would have thought? I have never seen so many hats in my life and there were some huge, strange ones at that! I came to discover these peculiar hats were known as “fascinators”? Well….I can definitely understand that! They WERE fascinating to say the least…although some of them made me sorry for the unlucky few who would be seated behind them. You come to see a royal wedding and instead you are stuck with seeing a humongous hat! That would not amuse me very much….

In between the guests arriving, I found myself fast forwarding so I could get closer to the actual wedding. By the time it got to Kate stepping into the car in her wedding dress, I was only about 10 minutes behind LIVE time. I watched as she got in her car to the wedding and admired her beauty. She truly is a beautiful woman and that dress was gorgeous. Interestingly enough, I didn’t feel any jealousy over her beauty, though. I almost thought I would, but even though my own wedding was NOTHING compared to the royal wedding, I STILL think of mine as beautiful and wonderful in its own right.

I really enjoyed seeing the differences in a British wedding and an American one, though. I think it was a learning experience and intriguing. I had 4 bridesmaids that were closer to my age, one maid of honor and 2 little girl flower girls…along with 4 groomsmen, 1 best man and 2 little boy ring bearers on the guy side. This wedding had 4 little girls under the age of 11 as bridesmaids…what a concept! and 2 little Pageboys(which I had never heard of). Kate’s younger sister was the maid of honor in a very, dare I say, sexy white dress. My jaw actually dropped when I saw her sister….wow! She was gorgeous too! And wearing white?! I had always heard that ONLY the bride was to wear white. How different! And here the groom and the best man are adorned in suits or tux but they had uniforms on. I really felt like I was gaining education in British ways but without the stodgy classroom feel, you know?

I LOVED the fact that William didn’t see Kate until she got to the altar LITERALLY. And I loved the look on his face when he saw her. It was such a beautiful ceremony and different than anything I had ever seen. I actually teared up a bit…but I’m an emotional girl anyways! I do admit to fast forwarding through all the hymns and speeches after the vows…UNTIL I caught up to LIVE time and was forced to just deal with that part. It was the longest ceremony I have ever seen but I am sure there are longer ones out there. When they walked off to sign the registry, I was left curious wondering what that was all about. And after they walked out and left for the palace without the standard American, “You may kiss the bride” sealed with a kiss…I thought for sure a kiss MUST have happened behind the scenes while they signed the registry. Hmmm…But they deserved to have that bit of privacy so it will be their little secret.

I continued watching as the crowd of close to a million (WOW!) awaited the kiss on the balcony. For a minute, I was under the impression that this was the tradition for thousands of years until they told the background story of it all starting with Princess Diana and Prince Charles. Let’s just hope that Kate and William’s marriage takes a much different turn!

By the time the TV broadcasting was over, I almost wanted to follow them through the upcoming parties and see how lavish the events were. I had seen so much that I had never seen before and I was intrigued to see more! But then I thought back to my own wedding day and I thought about how I would have felt if cameras were following me all day. And I realized that I wouldn’t want them to continue following me. I would want to be able to relax with those closest to me and really enjoy the moment. But I can see how people can get caught up in everything and want to know MORE. Always more, more, more, you know?

So I gave in….I acted like an obsessed royal wedding watcher and I surprised myself. Why? As an American, I think I was just curious to see what all the hubbub was about. And as I started watching, I was bewitched by the differences of weddings in the UK versus the US. I was intrigued to keep watching and learning from the experience. And OK…I became interested in what the super secret wedding dress would look like.

Also, there was just something about the idea that someone NOT born of royalty could dream of becoming a princess and actually have that happen. Every little girl dreams of being a princess….maybe not ALL, but a majority of them. Heck, I got married in a castle…so I would be lying if I said I never wanted to be a princess as a little girl. Even though the odds of someone actually becoming one are about a gazillion to one…this was a case where it happened and the allure of that drew me in. I became one of the zombies drawn in by the wedding.

BUT I lasted until a couple days before the wedding BEFORE I got drawn in. Does that count for something?

Now that’s it’s all over, I am off to my very UN-royal and boring life but it was fun getting to float away to make believe land for a little while. So don’t hate on me too much, all you wedding bashers….Sometimes you just surprise even yourself……

First of all…I do NOT know what’s up with WordPress lately but the last few blogs I have tried to comment on refuse to show the comments. Therefore, I am taking a break from reading all the blogs I am subscribed to and hopefully, it will be working when I get done with this blog.

I stole this X List from another blog called “Walk a mile in my shoes”…I tried leaving her a comment letting her know I was “stealing” but it didn’t show. I’m crediting her blog here so she knows that I chose to be brave and post it on my blog too! 🙂

(X) this « Walk A Mile In My Shoes.  <—And if you don’t already subscribe to her blog, you should! I love it and I think you will, too!

If there’s an X beside the item listed, then it’s something that applies to me…if not, then it doesn’t! Thanks Stacey for posting this first! 🙂

[X] I have been on some sort of team.
[ ] I have run more than 2 miles without stopping.
[] I have been to Canada.
[X] I have watched cartoons for hours.
[X] I have tripped UP the stairs.
[X] I have fallen down an entire flight of stairs.
[] I have been snowboarding/skiing.
[X] I have played ping pong.
[] I swam in the ocean.
[] I have been on a whale watch.
[X] I have seen fireworks.
[X] I have seen a shooting star.
[ ] I have seen a meteor shower.
[X] I have almost drowned.
[X] I have been so embarrassed I wanted to disappear.
[X] I have listened to one cd over & over & over again.
[X] I have had stitches.
[ ] I have had frostbite.
[ ] I have licked a frozen pole and got stuck there
[X] I have stayed up til 2 doing homework/projects.
[] I currently have a job
[X] I have been ice skating.
[] have been rollerblading
[X] I have fallen flat on my face.
[X] I have tripped over my own two feet.
[ ] I have been in a fist fight.
[X] I have played videogames for more than 3 hours straight.
[X] I have watched The Power Rangers
[X] I do/HAVE attended Church regularly.
[X] I have played truth or dare.
[X]I’ve called someone stupid. And meant it.
[X] I‘ve been in a verbal argument.
[X] I’ve cried in school.
[ ] I’ve played basketball on a team.
[] I’ve played softball on a team.
[ ] i’ve played baseball on a team.
[ ] I’ve played football on a team.
[ ] I’ve played soccer on a team.
[ ] I’ve done cheerleading.
[ ] I’ve swam on a team.
[ ] I’ve been on a track or cross country team.
[] I’ve been swimming more than 20 times in my life.
[] I’ve thrown up going on a ride at an amusement park.
[] I’ve climbed a rock wall.
[X] I’ve lost more than $20.
[X] I’ve called myself an idiot.
[X] I’ve called someone else an idiot.
[X] I’ve cried myself to sleep.
[X] I’ve had (or have) pets.
[X] I’ve owned a Spice Girls cd.
[X ] I’ve owned a Britney Spears cd.
[X ] I’ve owned an N*Sync cd.
[X ] I’ve owned a Backstreet Boys cd.
[] I’ve mooned someone.
[X] I’ve swore at someone.
[X] I’ve been in the newspaper.
[X] I’ve been on TV.
[ ] I’ve been to Hawaii.
[X] I’ve eaten sushi.
[X ] I’ve been on the other side of a waterfall
[X] I’ve watched all of the Lord of the Rings movies.
[] I’ve watched all the Harry Potter movies.
[] I’ve watched all of the Rocky movies.
[X] I’ve watched the 3 Stooges at least once
[X] I’ve watched “Newlyweds” Nick & Jessica.
[X] I’ve watched Looney Tunes.
[ ] I’ve been stuffed into a locker.
[X] I’ve been called a geek.
[X] I’ve studied hard for a test and got a bad grade.
[X] I’ve not studied at all for a test and aced it.
[ ] I’ve hugged my mom within the past 24 hrs.
[ ] I’ve hugged my dad within the past 24 hours.
[X] I’ve met a celebrity/music artist.
[X] I’ve written poetry.
[ ] I’ve been arrested.
[X] I’ve been attracted to someone much older than me.
[X] I’ve been tickled till I’ve peed.
[X] I’ve tickled someone else until they cried.
[X] I’ve had/have siblings.
[X] I’ve been to a rock concert.
[X] I’ve listened to classical music and enjoyed it.
[X] I’ve been in a play.
[X] I’ve been picked last in gym class.
[ ] I’ve been picked first in gym class.
[X] I’ve been picked in that middle-range in gym class.
[X] I’ve cried in front of my friends.
[X]I’ve read a book longer than 1,000 pages.
[ ] I’ve played Halo 2.
[X] I’ve freaked out over a sports game.
[ ] I’ve been to Alaska.
[ ] I’ve been to China.
[ ] I’ve been to Japan.
[X] I’ve had a fight with someone over AIM/ MSN/ Yahoo Messenger
[X] I’ve had a fight with someone face to face
[X] I’ve had serious conversations on any IM.
[X] I’ve forgiven someone who has done something wrong to me.
[X] I’ve been forgiven.
[X] I’ve screamed at a scary movie
[X] I’ve cried at a chick flick
[X] I’ve watched action movies.
[X] I’ve screamed at the top of my lungs.
[ ] I’ve been to a rap concert.
[ ] I’ve been to a hip hop concert.
[X] I’ve lived in more than 2 houses.
[X] I’ve been to other states.
[X] I’ve been homesick.
[X] I’ve thrown up
[ ] I’ve puked on someone.
[X] I’ve been horseback riding.
[X] I’ve spoken my mind in public.
[X] Ive proved someone wrong.
[X] I’ve been proven wrong by someone.
[X] I’ve broken a leg/foot.
[ ] Broken an arm, wrist, hand, finger, or knuckle
[ ] I’ve fallen off a swing.
[X] I’ve swung on a swing for more than 30 minutes straight.
[X] I’ve come close to dying.
[X] Someone close to me has died.
[X] I’ve wanted to be an actor/actress at some point.
[ ] I’ve done modeling or done a beauty pageant
[X] I’ve taken something/someone for granted.

{April 27, 2011}   Proud to be Pale

Yep, you read that right! I am PROUD to be PALE!

It always shocks me how people that are darker than me are always obsessing about tanning. I am WHITE, like really white and you know what? I don’t care! I come from a long European line which includes English, Welsh, Irish, Dutch and Italian. By the looks of my skin and the color of my eyes, I think THAT part of me must come from the Irish side.

Thanks to shows like Jersey Shore (which I do NOT watch and so doesn’t interest me!), tanning has become glorified way more than it should. Even IF I had the god given ability to tan, I would not want to. When I was younger, I would sunburn if I wasn’t careful and I only ended up with a tan once. A tan I didn’t want and didn’t ask for and it was totally accidental. It came from a sunburn that changed to a tan. Of course, it lightened back up over time and I was OK with that. Nowadays, so many people want to be tan that I feel like being ANTI-tanning makes me stand out more because I don’t. And so what if I may have blended in with my white wedding dress which is something girls seem to dread. I don’t care! I guess I could have used those fake sprays from the store that some people use. Some of those end up making you look kind of Oompa-Loompa-ish though and somehow I prefer being white over orange. Not to mention, weddings are expensive enough without adding paying for even a fake tan.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to do a post and bash everyone that chooses to not take my 100% stance against tans. If you want to get a fake tan from bottles or a spray tan, then by all means, do so. As far as I know, those are safe alternatives to tanning and I see nothing wrong with them. While I would love ALL women to just embrace whatever color they are naturally given and not try to be lighter OR darker, I realize some people really WANT that and if you do, just be safe.

If you tan on the beach, which is STILL bad for you, at least use sunscreen. Use it correctly and use the right amount!

I have so many friends who go tanning on the beach or in tanning beds and although I try to warn them and tell them it’s bad for them, they don’t seem to care. This bothers me quite a lot. I’m not telling people that it’s bad because I want them to be pale and unhappy…I’m not telling them that to piss anyone off. I’m telling them because I genuinely care about them and don’t want to see them end up with skin cancer or something.

As an active Cosmo reader, ONE of the things I LOVE most about their magazine is their anti-tanning stance. They do articles ALL the time warning women about the dangers and even show celebrities that are against it. Nowadays with the media having such a huge effect on women of all ages, but especially younger ones, it’s so great to see celebrities stand up for positive things. I feel like a lot of young girls will see a favorite celebrity who is speaking out against tanning and be more apt to listen and take the advice then if they had just heard about it from a friend or family member. Young girls want to do what is cool…so when tanning becomes NOT cool, if ever, then girls will cease to do it as much.

I found some copies of articles that I had read in print before from Cosmo that I am passing on to whoever is interested. I think everyone could benefit from reading.

This first article is about a girl who died at 26 due to tanning. When I first read it in the magazine, it had a huge impact on me. I knew tanning was bad but this was what really started making me see just HOW bad it really is.

Glenna Kohl – Skin Cancer Death – Cosmopolitan.

This next article exposes scary truths that tanning salons deny. Here is a particular excerpt from this story:An August 2009 report from the International Agency for Research on Cancer reclassified tanning devices as a definite carcinogen. And, the report said, if you tan indoors before age 30, your skin-cancer risk rises by 75 percent.

Read more: Indoor Tanning Danger – 20/20 Tanning Investigation – Cosmopolitan

If you absolutely despise being pale and just have to be darker then there are safe ways to do so. Here is an article showing you how to fake a great tan!

Sunless Tan – How to Apply Sunless Tanner Lotion – Cosmopolitan.

Here’s another article from that shows some celebrities who are anti-tanning.

Robert Pattinson, Kristen Stewart ’save lives’ by not tanning – National Celebrity Fitness and Health |

IF the chances of skin cancer don’t scare you enough, MAYBE the fact that tanning causes premature wrinkles will. Is temporary beauty in the form of darker skin for NOW worth all the wrinkles later? Here’s a recent blog article I found that was interesting.

Tanning: Golden Bod vs. Wrinkles and Death :Commentarista.

Hopefully, reading these articles may have helped one person to change their mind about tanning. I sure hope so. And men that tan, you should look at them too! You are not excluded just because of your sex, the dangers are for you as well!

Don’t let what people think bother you so much that you put yourself at risk for skin cancer. There’s enough other stuff in this world to worry about! While others may call me “Snow White”, that’s fine by me, because I know at the end of the day, I’ll have less wrinkles than the tanners one day AND I don’t have to worry about skin cancer from tanning anyways! And IF you really just don’t care about yourself, think about your friends and family who don’t want to see you get skin cancer! Stay safe for them!

Here’s how everything went with my mom’s surgery today.

My mom’s surgery is over with now and I am at home. Turns out, she tore out 20 stitches down to the joint and he had to go in there to restitch it all up. She now has a souvenir of the plastic upper part…not sure what it’s called…he took the old one out for safety’s sake and replaced it…..BUT not the actual knee. He said it didn’t look infected at all but he took a culture anyways and she will have to remain at the hospital until it comes back. IF it comes back as a contamination, they may be able to just keep her on antibiotics and watch it, but worst case scenario, they would have to take everything out…..and she would have to wait 6 weeks for a new knee replacement. 😦 Crossing my fingers that everything goes well so she doesn’t have to go through that. The doctor put a brace on her knee and said he may keep it there for a month…I think he really wants to make sure the stitches stay in this time!

She was in a lot of pain after surgery….on a scale of 1 to 10, she said 10…..which she did NOT say the first time and this is the same woman who was at 90% bend on day 2 after knee replacement surgery and rated her pain THEN at a 3 or 4! If she is rating it a 10, it has to be bad…..I don’t know if anyone else understands this, but I KNOW my mom! She was still extremely groggy hours after surgery and barely half awake….when I kinda woke her to say bye, she was STILL complaining of pain even though they had given her a shot of demerol an hour before. Needless to say, I left the hospital room and started tearing up in the hallway. My husband asked me what was wrong and I wouldn’t tell him until we got to the car…where I started bawling. I hate seeing my mom in pain and I hate leaving her there by herself while she’s going through it….I feel like I am this horrible daugher for leaving her there alone cause I know she would be there every minute by my side if I was in there in pain.

Right now, I have not slept in over 24 hours and all I can think about is my mom waking up and not seeing anyone she loves by her side and it breaks my heart….: (

I know she told me to go on home but I feel bad….

Please continue to keep her in your prayers!

UPDATE: After being in pain all night and them only giving her pills that were having NO effect at all, my dad called and talked to her doctor and it was decided to give her a nerve block in her knee. After her first knee surgery, they had done this but not THIS time. She was given the nerve block around 11 this morning and she is now doing a lot better. Thank God for that! I hated knowing she was in so much pain! Now to await the culture to make sure everything is OK!

{April 25, 2011}   Life…Unexpected

Life changes unexpectedly for the good and sometimes for the bad.

My mom fell last night possibly due to her cane getting stuck on the carpet and in the process of trying to fall on her “better” knee, she fell back and hit her “bad” knee(that she just had surgery on) and it caused the stitches to rip open. This was a first for the doctor who did her knee replacement. After going to see her other doctor about it, he stapled it closed temporarily and she is now in a hospital room awaiting yet another surgery tomorrow around or after noon. The doctor wants to go in there, clean it out really well as to avoid any infections and then restitch it up closed. After the surgery, she will have to remain up there 2-3 days again. My mom hates having to be up at the hospital…who likes to be up there, right? : (

So later today I will be up there before, during and afterwards for awhile to make sure everything goes well. Since her Dr. already has a few regularly scheduled surgeries, my mom’s will be when he gets done with them. So it could happen quickly OR it could take forever, who knows? But since I will be away up there for who knows how long, I am doing my post for today super early. As in right after midnight of the day before.

Whoever feels the need to send prayers or good wishes, feel free to! They are ALWAYS appreciated.

I also found out yesterday that my Nanny saw her Dr. about the pain she had been having in her ribs since she fell over a week ago. They took X-rays and turns out she has 7 broken ribs. OUCH! Because of her age, it’s too much of a risk to do surgery on her so she will just have to suffer through it until she is healed. She will be sore for awhile. Poor Nanny! : (

Good news is our area just got some much, much needed rain that we have lacked in a long time! We also had a Tornado Warning though…so far I haven’t heard any reports of a tornado hurting anyone so I pray everyone around my area was safe. Our apartments still have lights and we are all safe here but I do have some friends that lost power tonight. I hope their power is able to be turned back on soon.

Thank God for protecting my friends and family from this storm. Thank God that even though my Nanny has some broken bones, the damage wasn’t even worse and she’s still around to bless me with her love. And Thank God that even though my mom’s stitches were torn, nothing else on her was broken or anything and my dad was there with her. Thank God for small miracles because when life changes for worse unexpectedly, the small miracles are what you have to grip tightly on to. The small miracles and the small moments of happiness help you get by.

{April 25, 2011}   Weekly Photo Challenge:ONE

When I think of ONE, I think of how there’s no other word I can think of to describe being solo or alONE and yet at the same time also describe being united or including everyONE. The word “One” can be described as the loneliest number when you are speaking of just ONE person or an individual but when you are speaking in terms of us all being “Unified as ONE”, it suddenly becomes not so lonely anymore….

I also think of marriage because what better example of unity? Marriage involves 2 people coming together as one. The two are still separate beings with their own personalities but they are agreeing to become one couple, united in love and trust. I didn’t take this picture obviously but it was the first picture I thought of for this challenge.

Our first kiss as husband and wife-2 become ONE

This wonderful picture was taken by my husband’s step mom who is an awesome photographer, brilliant writer and sweet woman all around. 🙂

When I think of ONE, I also think of how just ONE person can make a difference. I think that is so true, just look around you and see the wonders around you that were created by ONE person. All our inventions and cures for illnesses….Of course, this world we live in was created by ONE person. God.

When you think of ONE in that way,  I could pick almost any picture and attribute it as fitting to this challenge. But here are some other pictures I have taken that I found fitting.

One solitary moth

One kitty free with your purchase of kitty litter?

One stop sign that failed to stop a hurricane 😦

One optical illusion

One curled up puppy named Angel

{April 24, 2011}   Easter Traditions

First of all, Happy Easter to everyone! I hope you have a great day!

As a child, I remember waking up to see what the Easter bunny would bring me. Usually an Easter basket overflowing with goodies and a stuffed animal or two. Then I would get dressed all up in a pretty little dress for church and pose for pictures. Usually the church we went to would have an Easter egg hunt the weekend of Easter.

After all the fun and games, it was always understood that the true meaning of Easter was Christ’s rising again from the grave after the crucifixion. We always went to church on Easter Sunday, ALWAYS. And then after church, we would come home, eat together and the rest of the day would pretty much play out like any other day.

Even though I don’t go to church much anymore, I’ll usually make an exception for Easter Sunday. Just because of what the day stands for. Today, I will not be going, though. My mom is getting around without her walker good barely one week after going home from the hospital, but HER mom, my nanny, wants her to stay home and not push it. Therefore, since my mom isn’t going and I’m not feeling 100% anyways, I’m forgoing tradition a bit. I can still celebrate in my own way, though and remember Christ on this day.

I see a lot of other bloggers telling of traditions in their families and I’ve learned a lot of new ones I had never heard of. I thought I would share with you a church tradition I remember from my childhood. Some people may know all about it but I might be surprised at who all hasn’t heard of it. And for other Christians who have never heard of this tradition, you might actually come to like it and use it yourself.

My mom taught Sunday school class for little ones before and actually used this herself. It’s called Resurrection Eggs and you can actually buy them already made now but back when I was a child, my mom made her set and my Sunday school teachers all made theirs. Resurrection Eggs are basically a set of 12 plastic eggs in an empty egg carton that are filled with different items that, if opened in order, tell the story of Jesus’s crucifixion and his rising again from the grave.

You number the dozen eggs and place them in the carton. You can decorate the carton however you choose. Then place the items in each one and open in order.

#1 holds a piece of bread. This comes from Jesus eating with his disciples, sharing the bread with them and saying, “Take and eat it, this is my body”-Matthew 26:26

#2 holds coins. These represent the 30 silver coins that Judas Iscariot betrayed Jesus for. Matthew 26:14-15

#3 holds purple cloth-This represents the robe Jesus wore as he walked with the cross on his back. Mark 15:17

#4 holds thorns.-This represents the crown of thorns placed on his head. Matthew 27:29

#5 holds scourge(small piece of rope or thick string)-Represents the whip that beat him. Mark 15:15

#6 holds a small cross-The cross Jesus carried on the way to Galgotha -John 19:17-18

#7 holds nails-The nails that were nailed into his hands and feet-John 20:25

#8 holds a small sign saying “This is the King of the Jews”-The words written above him. Luke 23:38

#9 holds a small piece of sponge that was soaked in wine and given to Jesus, trying to make him drink. Matthew 27:48

#10 holds a toothpick(or something representing a spear) The spear that was plunged into his side. John 19:34

#11 holds a rock.-Representing the stone that was rolled away (although I remember my mom using a piece of cloth to represent all that was left behind the stone. Matthew 27:59-60

#12 is empty because he is no longer here, he is risen. Matthew 28:6

(Since my memory wasn’t perfect on the items in each egg and how everything was told, I looked this up online to remind myself. There are different items used in different people’s lessons, this one wasn’t exactly the same as my mom used, but close.)

Another thing I would like to share isn’t exactly a tradition, although I remember this song being sung a lot at my church when I was a kid. Especially on Easter Sunday. When I got older and started singing in church myself, I even sang it a few times. Here’s the lyrics to a beautiful, emotional Easter song about Jesus.

Via Dolorosa by Sandi Patti

Down the Vía Dolorosa in Jerusalem that day
The soldiers tried to clear the narrow street
But the crowd pressed in to see
The Man condemned to die on Calvary

He was bleeding from a beating, there were stripes upon His back
And He wore a crown of thorns upon His head
And He bore with every step
The scorn of those who cried out for His death

Down the Vía Dolorosa called the way of suffering
Like a lamb came the Messiah, Christ the King,
But He chose to walk that road out of
His love for you and me.
Down the Via Dolorosa, all the way to Calvary.

Por la Vía Dolorosa, triste día en Jerusalém
Los soldados le abrían paso a Jesús.
Más la gente se acercaba,
Para ver al que llevaba aquella cruz.

Por la Vía Dolorosa, que es la via del dolor
Como oveja vino Cristo, Rey y Señor,
Y fue Él quien quiso ir por su amor por ti y por mí.
Por la Vía Dolorosa al Calvario y a morir.

The blood that would cleanse the souls of all men
Made it’s way through the heart of Jerusalem.

Down the Vía Dolorosa called the way of suffering
Like a lamb came the Messiah, Christ the King
But He chose to walk that road out of His love for you and me
Down the Vía Dolorosa, all the way to Calvary.

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Whether you’re a Christian and are spending the day with family and celebrating Jesus’ resurrection or you’re not and are spending the day another way, I wish you ALL a Happy Easter!

I consider myself old fashioned as a wife in a lot of ways. Part of the reason is because I was brought up by parents that were very old fashioned themselves. Since my parents had me when they were 40 and 44 years old, I guess it kind of makes sense.

I don’t believe in the “only women should cook and clean” idea, though. My dad has always been the one who washed dishes in our house as a matter of fact and he cooks for himself some. I try to get my husband to do the same and it’s apparent that he doesn’t like the idea of washing dishes…Go figure.

Before marriage, my husband, just like many men, like to spend the nights over at a friend’s house just hanging out and having fun. I frequently informed him that once he was married this was going to stop. Every one knows the man stays home with his wife and gives up partying and spending the night over at friends, right?

So much for that idea. For awhile, he stuck with that but soon, he started asking occasionally to spend the night at a friend’s house. Well, this hurt my feelings, quite honestly. Is he bored of me already? What am I doing wrong that he wants time away from me? And underneath all of that was this strong view that a married man doesn’t spend the night over at a friend’s house. Going over and visiting a friend for awhile is fine but spending the night? That’s just not proper! It’s not the way I was taught and I didn’t see anyone else that was allowing it so it must be wrong and I have to stand up against it!

As time went on in our marriage, I eventually gave in. Mostly because he wouldn’t quit pestering me about it and it got to the point where I felt like a mom saying No to a child instead of a wife to a husband. Also, my husband being bi-polar, he goes through a manic phase where he wants to just go, go, go. I am a homebody and I always have been. I try hard to be more outgoing but it’s not my nature. I came to realize that trying to make my outgoing husband be a homebody was the same as trying to change MYSELF to be more outgoing. You can’t change your nature. So I gave in and let him some.

BUT…I still felt like it was not proper. It was just not right and if I told other wives, their jaws would be sure to drop and the gossip would start flowing. And man, do I hate gossip! I didn’t want people to start rumors about my husband possibly doing things he shouldn’t be doing. I love my husband and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he LOVES me. We may argue, fuss and fight but I have never felt more SURE of a man in my life. I never thought years ago that it was possible to be so sure that a man would never cheat on you and would never leave you. I now can say that it IS possible. I don’t have even a smidgen of doubt in my head about that. I know it’s probably rather cheesy to say that, but it’s 100% the truth.

This July will be our 2 yr. anniversary and I’m starting to reconsider my old fashioned view point on this matter. While I do miss him when he’s away for the night and oft times find it harder to sleep if he’s not there next to me, I manage. I’m not the only wife that has to sleep alone at times. Mine might be for a different reason but it’s only a night whereas some wives have to go much, much longer. I can always reach him by phone and if I truly NEED him, I know he will come home and be there by my side.

I think sometimes it’s good for us, though. Honestly, the little bit of time he’s away has been a good time to have quiet time. I can clean up, read a book without feeling like I’m neglecting my spouse, work on my blog without interruptions, or do whatever I choose to. It almost feels like the freedom of the single days but I still have that comfort in knowing I have someone who loves me and is thinking about me all the time. How do I know? I have had his friends that he spends time with tell me how much he talks about me constantly. In fact, I had one of his female friends he ghost hunts with tell me she could only hope that her man talks as sweetly of her when she’s away as mine does of me.

This makes me smile. It’s reassurance of what I already knew. So maybe letting my husband spend the night with a friend every once in awhile is not exactly “proper”, but there’s all types of marriages now a days and we can make our own rules. Honesty and trust are the most important parts of a relationship and giving my husband his freedom to do this is my way of saying I trust him completely.

So here’s a toast to Trust and Modern Thinking from an Old Fashioned Wife!      (Except I’ll be toasting with juice!)

{April 22, 2011}   Teen Mom Controversy

I guess my middle name really should be changed to “Random” because my posts have been very much just THAT lately.

As much as my husband hates and despises it and calls it nothing but trash, I admit that I LOVE watching 16 & Pregnant and Teen Mom on MTV. I’ve watched it from the very beginning. Why? I never personally experienced being pregnant as a teen so I find it interesting to see what it’s truly like for the ones who did. And OK, I also like the idea of getting to almost “spy” on a different life style, see what it’s like and get away with it. Am I the only one that is like that?

Well, awhile back, I read somewhere (I don’t remember exactly where) about how these shows were becoming very controversial because teens were TRYING to get pregnant so they could try to get on them. I guess it’s the old “Everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame”, right? I thought about this claim and I have to say, it seems rather likely. I believe some people would do anything to be famous, so it makes sense. BUT TV also glorifies a lot of other things that people might want to mimic to try to become famous as well. And let’s face it, these days, what AREN’T they doing a show about?

I think for a teen to want to become pregnant to be on this show…I don’t think this is the AVERAGE response to the show. The teens that may be doing so…there’s probably more going on in their life than just an extreme urge to become famous. One could also say that with all this drama over Kate plus 8, Octomom, The Dugger family(which by the way, I do not watch either Kate or the Dugger family shows…shocking, huh?!) that someone might also get the idea into their heads, that hey! let’s take fertility pills even if we don’t have to, have tons of kids, get our OWN reality show, free stuff and have a taste of fame.

But is it WORTH it? Truly? I don’t even watch ALL these types of shows out there, yet from just hear say, the gossip, paparazzi, and drama that this “fame” brings seems to not be so much fun. And for all the teens that are trying to get pregnant just for fame, I believe there are also a lot of them that are becoming more careful and possibly changing their minds from these shows. I’m 27 and some of the things these young moms have been through on the show seem like they would be difficult for ME to face, even as a much older adult than them. It shows the reality of getting pregnant as a teen and the rarity of the guy actually staying with the girl and being there for her 100%. It shows babies that have health problems that bring heartache and sacrifices that one so young should NOT have to be dealing with. It shows girls having to give up their old lifestyles and not be like their friends anymore. While I, myself, am no longer a teen, I can see myself back then watching this kind of thing and it would have cemented my resolve to NOT be a teen mom even more so.

And while I am not a mom yet, I think parents with teen girls should watch these shows WITH their kids and see how they respond towards it. If their teen appears to think of being a teen mom as cool, see about signing her up to take care of a real baby for a few days (maybe supervise, if need be) and see what she thinks then. Even those fake babies that you have to hold the keys in their backs until they stop crying…..*hint* they make ones that cry ALL the time to represent a colicky baby. I guarantee you that would make them change their mind!

Let’s be honest…Teen Pregnancy IS and may always, sadly, be an epidemic and even though there could be a small chance that shows about such a thing might spur it on even more, I think the risk is worth it in the long run. If even a few girls watch it and learn to be safer with their choices and/or change their minds, then I think it’s a good trade off.

That’s my own opinion, but what’s yours?

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