I have this little book called “The Woman’s Book of Confidence” that is all about teaching you to accept yourself and be true to you. I had never read any of it before today. In fact, I had it set aside under the little table by my bed. I had fallen asleep last night with another book beside me and today when I went to set it down on the table, I accidently knocked over a can of Mountain Dew that I had left on top of my table. So…I had to grab a towel real quick and move everything from on top and under the table to clean it up.

That’s when I saw the little book and decided to read the first part. It’s divided up into many little sections so it can be read kind of like a daily thing, if you want. The first little story was about Sharing Roots. It talked about Redwood trees and how they last so long because they spread their roots out all around them.

Redwood tree roots are very shallow, often only five or six feet deep. But they make up for it in width, sometimes extending up to 100 feet from the trunk. They thrive in thick groves, where the roots can intertwine and even fuse together. This gives them tremendous strength against the forces of nature. This way they can withstand high winds and raging floods.-www.sunnyfortuna.com

The lesson you can learn from this story is that if we, like the Redwood trees, share our roots with those around us, we can withstand the trials that come into our lives. You need to have confidence to be willing to share your roots with others and not be afraid to ask for the support that you need.

I believe this is a very important lesson for me. One that I never knew I needed. I always thought I DID ask for support when I needed it. Obviously, I haven’t always, though. As one of my most recent posts showed me, the one about my brother drinking and the way he acted. I chose to keep that secret from a lot of people that could have been there for me during that time. I made up a million excuses as to why I couldn’t tell anyone when the real truth was simply I felt like to tell people would be asking for pity. Why should I tell ALL my friends my sob stories? They have enough of their own, right? They don’t want to hear all my pitiful ones. What if they think I am pathetic and just want attention or something?

But what I have learned from that short story on Redwoods is that whenever you have ANYTHING in your life that is hurting you and bringing you down, it’s important to share it with someone. You can not survive if you have no roots planted in the ground. If all your grief and heartache starts inside you and also ends there, then you’re like a tree with no roots in the ground. Eventually, enough wind and rain is going to come your way, that you can no longer remain standing strong. It WILL knock you down.

Today I realized that part of having confidence in yourself is asking for support when you need it. AND giving support when others ask for it.  The confidence is in trusting yourself.

From now on, I choose to ask for support from those around me when I need it. I also choose to give support however I am able to, to those around me who need it. If this is something that you, yourself, struggle with, I challenge you to do the same.


  1. I HATE asking for help! Hate it! Hate it! Hate it!

    I have, however, gotten much better about it. I think writing helps with that. Sometimes the only help or support I need is just for people to understand . . . The beautiful world of blogging has giving me the opportunity to ask for that support without *actually* asking for it!


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