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{January 13, 2011}   To be or not to be? What IF that’s the question?

I knew it, I knew it, I knew it……I talked about being so inspired and then poof, and here it is…..I have been putting off all day doing my blog knowing I have to do this for myself, I can’t miss a day, I promised I would blog everyday…..I knew there would come a day where I just wasn’t in the mood to blog but I never thought that it would happen so soon…a day after my challenge had officially begun!

Isn’t that the way things seem to work, though? You get so excited and fired up about something NEW you’re going after or trying to do and the motivation is 100% there and then poof, just gone….I guess this is the reason I have Never, ever believed in resolutions. It’s a new year so you’re so gung-ho about challenging yourself but then after a few days, you get back into your normal routine and somehow that drive to push yourself just goes “wha-wha-wha”….(Hopefully you know the sound I mean there, I would add the audio for you but I doubt I could do the sound justice….oh where, oh where is someone with better sound skills than me?)

Well…here I am, I am blogging anyway. I refuse to lose my challenge!

The first thing I did right before doing this blog is look for an idea, something I could write about….all I have gotten is just confusion….let me explain: I watched “The Tooth Fairy” today…cute, funny movie….but basically the character played by The Rock(look him up if you don’t know him) has an issue with believing, with the question of “What if?”….Instead of putting aside the odds of something actually happening and just suspending belief and saying, “Well, it COULD happen, you just never know”…he tends to start out the movie as a negative person who doesn’t believe….and then he learns to ask “What if?”

Well….in looking for something to write about, I was directed through the post-a-day blog (which gives you ideas for things to write about) to another blog called Challenge-a-day where they give you a challenge to do for everyday….So I read that post for the day to give me an idea….and it was basically challenging yourself to not think about the past cause you can’t change it and when you catch yourself thinking “What if?”, stop yourself. Really? Are you kidding me???

Say “What if?”, DON’T say “What if?” UGH! What a contradiction in my head for today….BUT as I am writing this blog, I am thinking more about it AND….it’s actually NOT a contradiction…..The “What if” question from “The Tooth Fairy” is in regards to the future…”What IF I become famous? What IF there’s a tooth fairy? What IF we DO this or DO that?” There’s nothing wrong with believing that your future can be whatever you want it to be as long as you work hard and don’t give up. BUT the “What if” referred to in Challenge-a-day is all about the past…”What IF I had gone on that trip? What IF I had got married to that person instead?” When your What if’s are focused on the past, it’s not doing anyone any good because there is no time machine, there is no going back and changing things. When you think about it like that, it seems like a really good lesson to learn. Whenever you’re stuck thinking of what could have been’s and what if I had have’s, DO stop yourself because it’s not accomplishing anything in your present or your future. The past is done. Whatever mistakes you have made, whatever regrets you may have, there’s no changing it, so instead focus on what can be in the future. BUT while you focus on your future, don’t just keep it a daydream of what you want to do…take steps to make your goals a reality. This is advice I need to use for myself…maybe this is advice you could even use?

I conquered my procrastination for today…and I am sure there will be other days but I want to make my “What IF I make it through 2011 posting everyday?” into a “I made it through 2011 posting everyday”

Thanks to  “The Tooth Fairy” movie and Challenge #13 | A Daily Challenge. for accidently giving me the push I needed to blog today.

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Glad I could help 🙂

And I agree–there is a huge difference. Wondering ‘What if’ about the future can be a wonderful, or a dangerous thing. I know many people that wonder ‘What if I move?’ ‘What if I get a new job?’ ‘What if I go to school?’ yet they never do. Then those future ‘What ifs’ turn into past ones and then turn into regrets. Wondering about the future can be wonderful, if one actually turns the wondering into experiences.



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