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I’ve been seeing news articles lately talking about how some employers are now requiring their employees to hand over their Facebook user name and passwords so they can have access to their accounts. Maybe I am overreacting here, but my first thought was, No way! If my best friends and family members don’t have access to my login info, why would I give it to a potential employer? It just seems way too invasive of them and I can’t imagine I’m the only one that would refuse such measures! Would you hand yours over?

First of all, I would like to make it very clear that there’s nothing bad or embarrassing on my Facebook that I am afraid for anyone to see. I have friended past coworkers on my Facebook and I would have no problem at all friended a boss or other coworker if I was forced to for a job. I’m not a big partier and I don’t post pictures of nudity, alcohol,drugs, etc. I don’t have any pictures on Facebook that I am tagged in that would bother me for anyone to see. I have a PUBLIC page that anyone can see, it’s not private, so an employee could look me up without me having to friend them anyways. I don’t use bad language on my Facebook a lot and I use it mostly for communicating with friends and relatives that live further away and it’s just an easier way of bringing us all together in 2012. I would be 100% comfortable in the future speaking out to any employers and letting them know all of this. My password, though? You’re NOT getting it. I’m sorry.

Why? Well, I have many reasons, actually, besides the fact that I don’t understand any clear reasons for needing it.

1) We are living in an age where bosses and coworkers are NOT always good people. I hear stories of people stealing from their own companies and backstabbing each other every day. I am not OK with giving a relative stranger access to something they could use to possibly ruin my life if they so chose to turn around and stab me in the back.

2)A friend of mine on Facebook has access to all relevant parts of my Facebook that I could ever conceive a employer would want to look at. Having my password would only provide access to my instant messages and Facebook private messages as well as possibly my phone number(if hidden), which an employer would have anyways. WHY would they need to look at my private messages? Private messages are between only the parties involved and by giving access to that, it’s not only exposing my private conversations BUT the friend or family member I had the conversation with. It then becomes an invasion of THEIR privacy. Sure, one could argue that you could tell your friends don’t private message me, only e-mail me, but can you expect every friend to remember this or even for sure see THAT message? Come on. The average Facebook person probably has over 100 friends. And why would I want to stop my private messaging when I, personally, hardly ever use my e-mail and that’s one of the main reasons I use Facebook to keep in touch with people.

3)What if one of my “friends” might happen to be an enemy of the coworker who has access to my Facebook and I am unaware of this? They could then have access to the friend’s page that they MAY have been blocked from…and who knows what they might do with that access? I mean, there ARE a lot of stalkers out there. Maybe this is over exaggerating, but you can never be too sure. Ted Bundy was a very charming guy who no one expected to be a serial killer, but that doesn’t make the fact that he was, any less true, right?

4)Nowadays, your Facebook can be connected to pretty much any other private page of yours you can think of. Ebay, Amazon,my WordPress,etc. Some of these sites, through clicking on connect to my Facebook, instantly log me on without the employer having to know my password. Some of these pages store account info. such as credit card information, if you have one. Access to Facebook can easily turn into Identity Theft. For instance, I have a couple of pages on my Facebook that offer books for my Kindle, for free and for a charge, sometimes. If I click on a book and like it, I can click again and it goes directly to Amazon where I am set up to one click buy. This means if someone had access to my account, they could very easily one click buy a bunch of things, change the address information, and who would be paying THAT bill?

5)If I kept thinking, I could probably come up with a million more reasons. The fact of the matter is, the only thing a password would be needed for is to be able to go in and pretend to be me or be able to change things on my page. To me, why not just ask for a spare house key so you can go through my apartment and snoop around? I have no issues with friending an employer, but they do NOT need my password! They are able to see everything they could possibly need to see just by being friended. This login information idea is just way too drastic.

What do YOU think? Would you be able to give up your information? Can you think of any relevant reasons why they would actually NEED this information and if so, would you go to the lengths some people have, and delete your Facebook or even CHANGE your name so you could keep your Facebook with0ut losing your privacy?



{August 4, 2011}   The “Unborn” on Facebook

I have several friends on Facebook who are expecting a baby, some are going to be new mommies and some already have been there, done that. I have learned so much about their pregnancies through this lovely thing we call Social Networking. We have the mommies doing a photo time line of their growing bellies, posting the sonogram pictures, and of course, keeping us all informed of the baby that is growing inside them. This isn’t a bad thing, really. For close friends and family that live far away, it gives them the benefit of sharing in this special moment. I do agree that when it comes down to the actual labor, sometimes the minute by minute descriptions on Facebook can be way too much information, but hey, that will probably be me someday.

Something new has arrived on Facebook recently. Maybe they came up with it to try to gain favor since Google + has entered the game or maybe they just thought it was a clever tactic.

Now, expectant mothers have the ability to add their unborn child as a family member with a Due date instead of a birth date and the picture? The sonogram!

I suppose it’s kind of a cute gesture but what happens if something, Heaven forbid, goes wrong with the pregnancy? Can you picture coming home from a miscarriage or still birth and seeing your “family member” listed and then having to remove them or declare them dead? Then seeing on your wall the words “You removed —— as your expectant child.” How haunting……

I’m not a mother yet so I can’t even imagine the intense pain that comes with losing a child and I know losing one has got to be hard enough on its own already without having to remove them from your Facebook, but I just don’t know. There’s just this underlying creepiness factor.

Apparently, Facebook said the reasoning behind this was because moms were making actual profiles for their unborn children where they had to obviously lie about the age and make them at least 13. This was so they could then add them as a son or daughter on Facebook before they were actually born. So now instead of making a “fake” profile, you can add them as an actual unborn child instead of a 13 yr. old child who is really still inside the womb. When I consider THIS reasoning, their decision suddenly makes more sense.

So…I predict adding pets next to Family profiles. I mean, why not? I know people who have already made profiles for their pets and let’s face it, for some people, their pets ARE their children. So why not? Seems less creepy than adding an unborn child, doesn’t it?



{July 10, 2011}   Censorship on Facebook

Everyone seems to have their own opinions on what one should post or NOT post about on Facebook. There hasn’t been one day that has gone by in which I don’t see some one complaining about SOMETHING posted. Well….you want to know what I have to say about this? I have to say that the posts complaining are more annoying to me than the posts THEY are complaining about! Seriously.

WHY? Because if you have such an issue with it, YOU can hide the posts, YOU can delete them or you can delete the person. If you add someone to your Facebook, it’s supposed to be because they are either a friend of yours, a family member, co worker or maybe just an acquaintance that you clicked with. If their posts are bothering you that much, maybe you’re not as close as you thought you were?

I fully appreciate the variety of posts I see. I appreciate the differing views and opinions, the quirky posts that delve deep into who that person really is and what they really stand for, the videos and stories each person posts that gives you a bird’s eye view into how their mind really works. I don’t exercise the “delete person” ability very much because I believe just like in a real world environment, we are meant to adapt and work around annoyances, things said we don’t agree with and things we scoff at. As long as a person isn’t attacking me wrongly, I will leave it alone if they post something not in accordance to what I may believe. Sometimes I can learn great lessons from seeing a different side of things. I like to remain open minded to taking in all sides and then deciding for myself.

Recently, a mutual friend of me and my hubby’s privately messaged my husband and basically told him he would “prefer if he wouldn’t post about eating fast food” and such because he is on a diet and trying to lose weight and this tempts him. My reaction when my husband told me this was that the “friend” needs to grow up and get over himself. In the real world, people are going to be talking about fast food and eating it in front of him constantly and this is something he will just have to learn to deal with. You can’t expect the world to bow down for you and roll out the red carpet and say, ” We will not do ANYTHING whatsoever to tempt you.”

This is not the first time this mutual friend has told my husband he didn’t like something he posted for stupid reasons and I’m sure it won’t be the last. He has never said anything to me about any of MY posts…which he is smart for because he wouldn’t like my response. I would tell him delete me if you have an issue…I am not going to change myself or the way I personally post for anyone. I have a right just like everyone else to post whatever I feel like. If someone else doesn’t like it, they can delete me and I could care less. If the way you deal with things that annoy you is to delete them, then by all means, feel free to do so. If you come to me and attack me up front, believe me when I say that I, myself, will do the honors of deleting you. :)

Sorry for this post…I just felt like ranting!



Today my husband was reading friend’s statuses out loud to me and I was automatically able to tell him WHOSE status it was just by what it said. I then realized how funny it was that just by the tone of a certain statement or regular wording someone uses, you can indeed tell who said it.

There are certain people in my life that I can hear them walking and know it’s them. They can cough or sneeze a few aisles away in the store and I’m sure it’s them. You can become so used to a person that even small details about them become uniquely “them” in your mind. You can see or hear something and you think, “That’s so that person” or “That’s something they would say.”

Now I have certain friends and family where I can read their Facebook status and know who said it. Some of them are people I am really close to and some not as close but I’ve just become used to what kinds of things they seem to talk about a lot or the way they word their statements.  Isn’t it interesting how someone can become sort of known for a Facebook status the way people used to know them for their conversations in public or their demeanor?

I really appreciate when a person’s status is out of the norm and leaves me guessing at who said it. I like the reminder that even when you think you know a person, there can be some much more to them. Just as long as they’re not hiding a serial killer secret……

Do you have a person in your life that loves the word “nothing”?

My husband seems to LOVE that word. Me? Not so much. I have discussed my issues with that word with people before but it just never ceases to amaze me how many people like to overuse that word.

I like to ask my husband what he’s doing when I’m in one room and he’s in another one. His favorite reply is “Nothing.” This really screws with my head. I do not GET how a person could literally be doing nothing…..I mean, even if you’re sitting down, staring into space…aren’t you at least thinking? But I guess if he is doing something rather boring, he thinks saying nothing will somehow spice it up enough that I will be satisfied and move on. It never works though….I usually get frustrated and tell him so.

First of all, if you say “Nothing” really quick after I ask you….it just screams “I’m doing something inappropriate and I don’t want you to know!” Right?! It’s like…Why don’t you want to tell me what you’re doing?

Of course I KNOW sometimes he says it because he is just watching TV or playing on his phone and it’s just easier to simply say “nothing” and get the conversation over. But when you know that I’m going to get frustrated and ask what is this “nothing” you’re actually doing, why must you continue to do so when it’s actually going to prolong the discussion? I just don’t get it and I don’t think I ever will!

Does anyone else detest when people do this as much as I do? Or am I making too much of a thing out of literally…nothing?

(Side note to my blog: My nanny fell again last night and broke a bone in her neck as well as bruising her knee up bad and possibly breaking a bone in it. She is currently in the hospital with a neck brace and they are going to be keeping her for a few days, at least. Prayers, wishes and kind thoughts are greatly appreciated for my family. My mom has been through a lot these past few months and is finally getting around good without a walker or a cane. Now she is trying to help with her mom(my nanny) and make sure that everything is good with her. So my mom and nanny could definitely use prayers, good karma…whatever you personally believe in. Thanks so much to all my blog friends who I know will do so)



{March 8, 2011}   I have a Facebook addiction

I admit it….I’m completely addicted to Facebook. It was exactly the same when I first discovered Myspace. It was like meeting this new friend who you just want to hang out with and talk to for hours. I became obsessed and had to get on a million times a day to see if there was a new message, a new comment or a new bulletin. I eventually parted ways with Myspace. I still have an account but the last time I logged in, I was really confused by the layout and overwhelmed. But I have replaced it with Facebook.

I can’t remember the first time I actually made a Facebook page. I think it was during my Myspace days. Just another site to have and find friends that maybe didn’t have a Myspace but I never used it too much. Everyone started moving to Facebook so you got to follow the crowd, you know? As Facebook developed more, it became much more user friendly to me and accessible and I had much more friends using it.

Now I diligently log into Facebook on my phone and as much as I can on the computer to see what’s going on. I think it’s just human nature to want to be able to tell people things and be able to openly see everything your friends are up to as well. Of course, it’s not just the friend aspect that allures me. I also have an addiction to Facebook games. I don’t know what it is that fascinates me so but it just does!

I’m an ex Farmville addict though and proud of it! It was fun at first but as they added more and more things, I got bored and the lag was ridiculous. The thought of going back to it holds no appeal for me either. There’s just too many new things and it would be like learning something completely new for me now. If I had to pick the one game I am obsessed with the most on there, it would be Treasure Isle. Digging for treasure is fun…..even though it’s not real. I don’t even have many friends who actively play it yet it still attracts me and my hubby seems to think it’s funny to give me a hard time about my obsession with it. But hey, he has his own games he is obsessed with. Most of my friends have at least a few.

Not all of them do, though. This fascinates me more than my obsession with the games. How do they keep themselves away from them? What secret super power do they hold and will they share?

It’s not like I want to have this addiction. I blame you, Mark Zuckerberg. Darn you for making such an addictive social networking site that keeps me coming back for more!

For now, I will return back to my Facebook page. The world could have changed dramatically since I started this post. Seriously!

Do YOU have a Facebook addiction? Are you addicted to any of the games?

P.S. I still have time for other things in my life. Facebook doesn’t OWN me completely BUT I do love it!



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